Maria and John were married last weekend in Pittsburgh. And the reception was held at LeMont...
The gourmet restaurant sits behind a crystal wall atop Mt. Washington which peers down upon The Point... where the mighty and historic Ohio, Monongahela, and Allegheny rivers swirl together to showcase Steel City's astonishing explosion of world headquarters.
While they're destined to enjoy a lot of things, the couple - my wife's cousins - will never again be the stars of a setting to rival their wedding afloat in a glimmering gem filled with everyone they love.
I wanted to capture one feeling to bring them back there each time they open it up over the years. A memory for them... So? How'd I do?
Following the rules...
When you're a guest there's a clear etiquette involving photography.
Most importantly, there's a professional who's earning a living documenting the event. .
• Rule number one... DON'T COMPETE! Don't interfere, insinuate, elbow, or shove into the pro-space. You're not the cook, so hunt for the crumbs.
• Rule Number two... Don't compose the bridal party. They have entered the zone of photography fatigue. The pro has done all of the standard poses, configurations, assemblies, and CLICHéS!!!!
• Rule Number three... Discover the details and candids. These are the atmospherics which will bring the memory book to life for the kids twenty years from now. You know the people better than the pro, know the culture. Know what will make Aunt Clara tear up, Uncle Jim giggle. You know about Harry's hairpiece and Myrna's implants.
And you know what the bride and groom consider romantic. If you want to give them a present, don't go looking to grab yourself one.
Here's your chance to repay your hosts for a great family meeting... By marrying your craft to their tastes.
• Rule 4... The wedding is NOT about you... yet strangely, the more invisible you become, the more memorable you will be....